It is not within my
confines to inform you of what you did not already know but to remind you about
this truth, the human sexual urge which if well understood will help man attain
purity of thoughts and desires for the same as well as the opposite sex, sanity
of mind, body and spirit. This also brings peace to the being of a man which
the world cannot give.
We can define this
aspect of man as an invisible force which greatly affects the visible nature of
man since the life of every living thing is in the blood {‘for the life of the
flesh is in the blood…’ Lev.17:11} and a human being is said to be alive when
his heart still has the ability to circulate blood efficiently to every part of
the body then this unseen but ever active force is contained within the blood
of every living human being.
From the above we can
ascertain that this force is available and active in the blood of every living
human being thus at conception when a child is formed in the womb of a woman as
a blood in the form of a foetus that child automatically inherits this force
from the parents with or without his consent and knowledge till later years of
reasoning in life when certain physical changes begins to occur and subsequent
psychological disposition towards others (same or opposite sex) just as the
parents accepts the sex of the child with no option to change it to their own
suited choice of sex prior to the moments of intimacy that led to the
fertilization of the egg. This leads us to define sexual urge as one of the
gifts of God to man which he cannot reject, rather he needs to accept it for
what it truly is; a gift from the hands of a loving father who does not wish to
stain or spoil the bond and love existing in the father-child relationship.
Everything giving by the father to the child is to make the child have a sense
of belonging and add value to him which in turn yields respect as well as
appreciation for the father’s show of love, care and concern. No wonder the
unleashing of God’s wrath on Onan {“But since Onan knew that the offspring
would not be his, he spilled his semen on the ground whenever he went in to his
brother’s wife, so that he would not give offspring to his brother. What he did
was displeasing in the sight of the Lord and he put to death also” Gen.38:9-10}
when he willingly spilt this life-giving fluid on the ground during intercourse
with his brother’s wife for selfish purposes and daring the injunctions of God
that anyone who sheds blood commits murder and will pay with his own blood for
in his own image God made man {Gen.9:6}. These behaviors are still recurrent in
our generation under the auspices of prostitution, abortion legalization,
contraceptive production/sell/use and dissemination, worship of obscenity,
human nakedness and nudity by the movie industry and media, insult and
degradation of human nakedness and physique by the fashion world, masturbation,
gay-rights legalization, upload and download of half-nude/nude pictures and
videos on the internet as well as its encouragements via follow-up comments,
castration of human beings, female circumcision and mutilation of sexual
organs, change of sexual organs through plastic surgery e.t.c
Looking critically at
what Onan did with his fluid, the immediate response of God and its recurring trend
in our generation as mentioned above we will notice the following; the
conscious awareness of an inherent emotion, this emotion calls for attention
and adequate satisfaction in order to enable man enjoy his existence without
destroying himself, the clarion call from within the self, parental upbringing
and environmental influence through observation, study, and instructions to
attend to this emotion, but there is a hitch which is the absence of the best
concept and knowledge to attend to this emotion in order to attain adequate
satisfaction without self-destruction and distortion of inner peace which he
inherited from his Source {GOD} the father of peace. To clear this hitch man
needs to ask these basic questions; ‘this emotion where cometh thou?’ (Where is
this emotion from?) And “where tends thou?” [‘Where are you heading to?’ “What
purpose will man achieve with your company?”] .
Sexual urge is a gift
of God to man from conception as defined by the words “…be fruitful and
multiply and fill the earth and subdue it…” {Gen.1:28}. God never gave man what
will bring him dishonor or create enmity between Him (the Creator) and man [the
Creature] rather He gave us everything that is necessary to enhance this our
union with him of which sexual urge is one of them. From the Sacred scriptures
we can observe that the gifts of God to man where given to him as subservient
nature and not a compulsive emotion or feeling hence we can control them if we
dispose ourselves to their true origin {‘for God did not give us a spirit of
cowardice, but rather a spirit of power and of love and of self-discipline’
2Tim.1:7/ Gen.4:6-7/ Sirach18:30-31}.
Sexual urge is an
emotion, a force, a passion and an aspect of a man’s nature that was given to
our first parents Adam and Eve by the phrase “multiply and subdue the earth”
and is being transferred from one human generation to another at conception
that is they are already in the life-blood of every human being that is in
existence thus at every distribution or outpouring of human fluids {blood,
semen, saliva e.t.c} either willingly or unwillingly this energy and
life-giving strength is transferred, shared or wasted with or without conscious
awareness of its consequences to human subsistence on earth. Since the nature
of human fluid is greatly affected by what we eat and drink; we can clearly say
that our feeding habit has a lot to do with our sexual urge.
Sexual urge can also be
defined as the conscious awareness of an inherent emotion/force/passion within
a human being, this force propels a man consciously or unconsciously to notice
every other thing outside of him, later on himself then compare which of the
externals possess similar qualities to himself; he appreciates every other
things in nature but seeks an endearing union with this object that is similar
to him, this attraction comes primary from the physical stature/physique which
the other possess whether same or opposite sex which promises to provide a
higher level companionship since both share similar quality [both are human
being] thus Adam exclaimed after the creation of Eve “this at last is bone of
my bones and flesh of my flesh; this one shall be called woman, for out of Man
this one was taken” (Gen.2:23)
Sexual urge helps us to
appreciate everything outside of us because of their need for survival,
complete and fulfilled existence nevertheless attracts man with each other as
mates {human beings} because of their similarity to each other which stems from
physical appearance and stature no wonder at the sight of Eliab; David’s
brother and the first son of Jesse God said to Samuel ‘…do not look on his
appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for
the Lord does not see as mortals see; they look on the heart’ (1 Sam.16:7)
defining the limited state of man’s perception of truth and life by what is
seen in the physical thus Paul inspired by the Most High gave us the best way
to the perception of life’s realities and truth “for we walk by faith, not by
sight”{2 Cor.5:7}
As human beings who
have mind, body and spirit created by God who is holistically a Spirit Being
though he manifested himself in human form through his Son Jesus Christ {Heb.1:3}
and other forms like tongues of fire, water and cool breeze as the Holy Spirit
(Acts.2:1-5), he has given us gifts which are from the spirit realm hence we
cannot be able to use in the correct way any gift of God until we denote its
purpose in the spirit realm thus genuine satisfaction for every gift of God
must be first attained in the spirit then put to use in the physical to glorify
God and edify the world created by God and its inhabitants no wonder Jesus
reacted thus “at that time Jesus said, I thank you, Father, Lord of heaven and
earth, because you have hidden these things from the wise and the intelligent
and have revealed them to infants; yes, Father, for such was gracious will”
(Mtt.11:25-26). With the above, Our Master Jesus taught us that prayer is a
spiritual gift giving to those who believe they are little, do not know how to
paddle life’s torrent tide with all the gifts, emotions, talents and spiritual
gifts but are consistently conscious on every second bases that there is a
Higher Being that brought them forth in this earth who alone bestowed all these
on him and will be in the best position to help him access as well as put them into effective and
efficient use of HIS glory on earth as well as edification of human race.
It is therefore
pertinent that we understand the reason why God instilled sexual urge in a man
from the spirit realm. The reason is to make man desire complete companion with
his source {GOD} and return to his Creator, this gift of God to man is like a
hook God uses to draw men to himself in their bid to flee from his presence by
trying to use what is seen in the world to satisfy this desire in the following
ways marriage, fornication, adultery, bestiality [sexual intercourse with
animals], pornography, masturbation, exhibitionism (exposing one’s half-nude
personality, complete nudity, encouraging others to do same and enhancing such
school of thoughts or philosophy), prostitution and homosexual school of
thought, production/sell/use and dissemination of contraceptives as well as
anti-life philosophy. This is a move made by man to attend to his emotions with
the wrong concept and understanding that what is seen can satisfy what is not
seen, from the time of Adam till date many have gotten drunk with the wine of
lust and could not attain satiety or satisfaction of sexual urge using all
these means mentioned above. Many young men and women get frustrated in
marriage after long years of keeping their physical virginity while they have
built up their emotions, desires and hopes on lust with pornography, sexual
imaginations, porn-magazines and toys, porn-ideas of sex and what sexual
intercourse should be like between married people under the pretext of
virginity till marriage only to find out that their spouse is not a sex-machine
hence the issues of ‘we are not sexually compatible’/ ‘I am in love with another
person outside my marriage partner’/ “infidelity” which stakes up to 95% of
broken homes and marriages today.
Sexual urge as a hook
that sticks unto the throat of man can be defined thus just like a fish gets
glued to a bait on a hook, those who saw this emotion in them and started
making enquiries into its source, purpose and best channel in order to attain
adequate co-existence with this emotion inherent in every man in every age which
is a gift from God who is on high and uses different gifts to draw our attention
to His Existence and our utmost dependency in Him who created us in order to
remind us that we came from Heaven where he dwells and we need to return back
to our home {Heaven; Phil.3:20} having put to efficient and effective use all
those gifts he presents to us every second as a reminder of his Existence and
the need to return home safely. The only and correct Being who can and should
answer the question about the origin and purpose of this emotion in man is the
Creator of man {GOD} and he made this invitation “call on me and I will answer
you and I will teach you great and mighty things you know nothing about”
[Jer.33:3]
After many years of
research and prayer into sex, sexual urge, sexual intercourse, sexuality and
love-making
My questions during
these period where
Why is this force so
high in me that it seems I cannot do without it via porn, gazing at women
lustfully, using the imagination to undress a woman whether well dressed,
half-nude or nude and have sex with her, gazing at women’s nudity at different
porn-sites and lesbian dating sites?
ANSWER:
Your desires are real,
authentic and Genuine.
I gave it to you from
conception and to men of every age
I am a Spirit Being and
what I give are spiritual
They cannot be
satisfied with the physical
I gave it to you in
order for you to search for the source of your desire
I am the source of your
desire
It is my
indwelling-presence that your soul, spirit and body desires
Your whole Being
desires to be consistently filled and connected with his source and origin
every second
Make me your desire
every second
Renew this
consciousness within you every second
You will be pure in
thoughts, words, attitude and desires
Your love for human
beings (same and opposite sex) will be pure, genuine and authentic.
Your love for wealth,
acquisitions and other created things will be sound
Sanity, Peace, Joy and
Gladness will envelope your whole Being
You will discover the
serenity in every passing moment of this earthly sojourn
Every second of your
life on earth will become worth living
Your faith will become
worth dying for without compromise
------- I AM WHO AM --------
