The Psychology of relationships

No relationship is ever completely perfect. However, you can make your relationship as enjoyable as possible for you and your partner. It's all about finding a balance between each others needs. This is the psychology of relationships.
It is important in a relationship to be able to recognize destructive behavior patterns that have the potential to push your partner away. Men and women have very different ways of communicating their needs and frustrations, and this can cause problems.
For women, it's important to understand that men place more importance on actions than they do words. So, perhaps instead of constantly trying to get your man to talk about your issues, try to think instead of actual firm actions that can be taken to address things.
For men, it is important to remember that women really need to be listened to and understood. If you feel that things don't seem quite right in your relationship, but you're not sure why, just take some time out to sit down and listen to what she has to say. It is also important to ask questions about what she has just said, in order to clarify what she means. Remember: it might not mean she wants you to particularly do anything; she just wants you to understand how she feels.
And this is all there really is to it. Women just want attention. They just want to feel like you care. They just want you to listen to them and feel like you understand them.
Most break-ups are totally unnecessary, and the majority relationships that end could have actually been saved if only the people involved knew what to do to. Don't be one of the many people who let their relationship fall apart.

God's blessing through giving

Giving is not the same as tithe. Many ministries lure people to give in order to become rich. There are TV shows promising wrong and unbiblical expectations. The verses these preachers use may sound very legitimate and correct. Knowing and doing the will of God through giving teaches you to study context first. We should interpret it as to what a certain verse is talking about; you will see that preachers are.
Giving is a blessing. Selfish and greedy preachers have misused giving to God. They are reaping cash from the dumb Christian crowd. The people who give never get rich but the people they give to do. They boast about buying houses and cars with cash. Some even buy airplanes for their so-called ministries. They turn around and say you will become like them if you give to them.
God has instituted giving as a means to help people in need. If you give to the poor, you give to the Lord. Store up your treasure in heaven. The way to store up your treasure in heaven is to give to the poor and needy. Knowing and doing the will of God through giving leads you to people in need.
Jesus also strictly forbids us from boasting about giving. Let not your right hand know what the left hand is giving. Today we have broadcasts all over telling the whole world how much you are giving to each other's ministry. Your boasting is all the blessing you will ever get when your time before the Lord comes for accountability.
C.S. Lewis said that if you are giving does not hurt your pocket book it is not giving. Faith and giving go together as an exercise before the Lord. When you do not have enough to give, God does not expect you to give. God only expects you to give to some one in need when you have that money. God does not command you to pledge to give to a ministry when you do not have that money at hand at that time.
That is real giving and do not broadcast it to the entire world about how much to whom, you have given. Let the Lord Judge you regarding your intentions for giving. Knowing and doing the will of God through Giving will teach you that it hurts to give.
Do not withhold your hand to your neighbor when you have the money. This is where faith comes in and trusts God to supply your need when you have met the needs of another person. Do not equate this to giving to a particular ministry. Giving to ministries has become a business and fraud today. Becoming full time has become a very profitable business venture for many.
Robert Fenn is a pastor, preacher, mentor and bible teacher for over 40 years.
His writings reflect his personal daily walk, struggles, victories and failures. He loves to share God's unfailing love, protection and guidance to others throughout his life.